It was Steve Furtick, Lead Pastor of Elevation Church in Charlotte, North Carolina, who once famously said, “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight real.” Never have such inspired words been more true than for those currently dealing with the difficulties of addiction recovery.
As old, troublesome habits are slowly put aside, people — regardless of whether or not they’ve spent time in a formal drug or alcohol rehab facility — constantly compare themselves to others who’ve both experienced pain and come out on top. While inspirational to a certain extent, such behavior can be detrimental.
In order to avoid the innate tendency to compare, appreciate what you have. Just as you or someone you love looks longingly at others for the progress that they’ve made, recognize that you are that very individual for another addict. Even if you’ve yet to have fully reached sobriety, your story is inspirational and is still worth telling.
Furthermore, accept what can’t be changed and work tirelessly to modify that which falls under your mantle of control. Drug rehab, for example, might be just the gently push you need to find permanent change. Truthfully, what else can be done? At the end of the day, the only person you should be comparing yourself to is the person that you were yesterday.